A Moment of Discussion
What to do, when.
Recently my good friend and sat down together over coffee and spoke about our partners.
We’ve both been in our respective relationships for a while now, and have been as open and up front honest as we can to our partner.
Yet, over coffee I told my friend that my partner and I had spoken about what we would do should I relapse into a depressive state. He suddenly realized, he had never had that type of conversation with his partner and it got me to wondering.
How many of us get stuck in our depression, our mental health, our problems, and never reach out to those who love us and make a contingency plan?
I had read an article awhile ago about a woman who had to go into the mental hospital several times, and it slowly dawned on her partner and her family that she needed a plan for the times when she fell. She needed a plan to make sure that they knew what to do when she fell again. So they had one in place for that exact scenario.
What struck me about it was that it took them 3 times to get to the point of having that conversation, realizing that maybe that was the step in the right direction.
Any illness, especially an ongoing illness, always requires not only careful management of the illness, but careful management of the illness, from diagnoses onwards. Yet this is something we don’t do in the case of mental health.
When we relapse in Cancer, we go through processes to make sure we are taking care of ourselves, mentally and physically. We make sure we have plans in place with family so that they are able to help us in our time of need, but we don’t do this with mental illnesses and relapses.
Part of this is of course because of the stigma surrounding mental illnesses as a general whole. Yet part of it is because, as I mentioned before, we get so wrapped into our illness, in ourselves and in our head, that it’s hard to realize that there are going to be the good times and the bad times, and it is perfectly okay to ask for outside assistance during the bad times. To make sure that we will get to the point of being okay again.
So, dear AYU readers, we want to hear from you – are you comfortable enough to have that talk with your loved ones? What does your contingency plan look like? What does it mean to have one, to you, and does relapsing mean that you need assistance outside as well as from family? Write to us contact@Anonymouslyyours.ca or tweet us at #AYUnwrapped and let us know. What does mean to you have to a contingency plan in place?